I think many of us can agree that Mother's Day is not a fun time of year for an infertile, and especially not for one recovering from a recent loss or failed cycle, so I hope no one will take this the wrong way when I say that I want to wish all of us a very warm, peaceful, stress-free Mother's Day.
I had a thought this morning, which I've often had before, that as an infertile woman we really are mothers already. When you've struggled for so long and so hard for child to call your own - compromised and sacrificed, visualized every detail of that life, every moment with your little one - you've already lived as a mother and felt what it is to be one. You already know your dream child in a way most people take many moons to get to know their flesh and blood children, and you've already loved them beyond anything and cried for the separation between you time and time again. You would give anything, endure anything, to have that baby safe and warm in your arms. You are a mother.
Happy Mother's Day to you all -- the amazingly strong, beautiful, mothers I've met here in the IF blog community.
- K
P.S. I apologize for disappearing for so long. It's been difficult for me to be on the computer for any length of time - mainly due to 1st trimester nausea and headaches - so I've occasionally lurked but haven't really been up for writing. I'm starting to feel much better, which of course has me worried that something is wrong with the pregnancy (my husband is assuring me that this is my own craziness), and I hope I'll be able to make a full blogosphere return, especially to follow and cheer on those of you going through or starting IVF cycles.
I had a thought this morning, which I've often had before, that as an infertile woman we really are mothers already. When you've struggled for so long and so hard for child to call your own - compromised and sacrificed, visualized every detail of that life, every moment with your little one - you've already lived as a mother and felt what it is to be one. You already know your dream child in a way most people take many moons to get to know their flesh and blood children, and you've already loved them beyond anything and cried for the separation between you time and time again. You would give anything, endure anything, to have that baby safe and warm in your arms. You are a mother.
Happy Mother's Day to you all -- the amazingly strong, beautiful, mothers I've met here in the IF blog community.
- K
P.S. I apologize for disappearing for so long. It's been difficult for me to be on the computer for any length of time - mainly due to 1st trimester nausea and headaches - so I've occasionally lurked but haven't really been up for writing. I'm starting to feel much better, which of course has me worried that something is wrong with the pregnancy (my husband is assuring me that this is my own craziness), and I hope I'll be able to make a full blogosphere return, especially to follow and cheer on those of you going through or starting IVF cycles.
Welcome back, I missed you!
ReplyDeleteSorry that you've ben feeling these hormones. Its only been the past few days that I've been at odds with my stomach, but can see how it might keep you away from the computer. Keep taking extra special care of yourself. xoxo - Foxy
Welcome back! Glad you're starting to feel better. I started feeling better around 9 weeks and freaked out that something was wrong, but so far everything is just fine.
ReplyDeleteYou and I both had the same thought about IFers already being mothers. I wrote a brief entry last night about it, but you said it much more eloquently.
Happy Mother's Day to you!
Hope to see you back and at it again.
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