You see, it's goes kinda of like this...I'm new in town, but I have lots of old friends here from when I lived her before. The problem is that they are mainly working professionals, none of them have children but one, and only one other friend is even married. Actually, of all my friends all around the globe, my only other pregnant friend lives in India, half a world and a major time zone difference away, and having her own lonely time of it.
I yearn to talk to other 1st time pregnant women, to share stories, compare notes, meet up in for lunch in our beautiful little town center, and shop for baby stuff without the inevitable groan of misery I have received from every friend or family member I've convinced to go with me, etc., but I just don't know anyone and I've never been the best at starting a conversation with new people. Usually, in my nervousness, I talk way too much and feel rather silly moments after the conversation ends.
The craziest part is I moved into Stroller City, USA, where meeting other new moms should be a cinch. Seriously, how many cities/towns do you know of where almost every store on the local Main Street has a play corner with toddler toys and books? All I have to do is walk outside my apartment to see moms, dads, grandparents, etc. pushing strollers on all sides of me - often in groups of friends (moms happily chatting, kids playing together...). I want that too. I want to be an active part of the new mom club, badge, stickers and all.
I've thought about starting a Meetup Group...still thinking. Would anyone attend? I don't know? I know I will eventually meet friends through play groups, but that is still way off in the future...what about now?
So, returning to prenatal yoga...I did it, I started the conversation, I asked if they would like to meet up sometime. Both kindly said sure, and we exchanged phone numbers. Now I don't know what to do. If I call too soon, will I seem desperate? But if I wait, will I lose my opportunity to maybe make some new friends? An email would have been easier, cause I could float a suggestion about meeting up, or just check in to see how they are doing. A phone call is so much harder, so definite, and what if they were just being nice and don't really want to meet up at all...Do you see my dilemma?
In other news, I wanted to share a great blog post from my dear sister who lives in NY. It is kind of a continuation of the discussion of baby shower taboos: http://wrathofthemammagoddess.blogspot.com/